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Overcoming Pornography

Pornography has become the most accepted forbidden fruit in the entire world.  Looking at naked people for personal pleasure is strictly forbidden by God in His Word (Matthew 5:28).  So why has it crossed over into the mainstream as being healthy and good?  Because the Bible says in 1 John 5:19 that the whole world is under the influence of the evil one.  It's all part of his wicked deception (2 Thessalonians 2: 9-10) to make sin seem normal, right, and good.

 

In the Garden of Eden, satan did exactly the same thing to Adam and Eve.  Eve held the forbidden fruit in her hand, and saw that it was pleasing to the eye (Genesis 3:6), just like pornography.  She was deceived, and we are all still paying the price for that sin.  And anyone who looks at pornography will also pay a huge price, not only in the life to come following death, but also in this life. Your life will  one day become a living hell, with some serious malady, that may include becoming broke, becoming depressed, becoming fat, or something much worse. This is what is known as the devil's compensation.  St. John Vianney once said, "I tell you that you have less to suffer in following the cross than in serving the world and its pleasures" and he was exactly right.  Studies have shown that porn consumers are more introverted and less able to love than those who do not consume porn.  And of course, this would then make the commands of Jesus to love God with your whole heart, and to love your neighbor as yourself, very hard to do, if not impossible.  And this is EXACTLY what the devil wants.  Women (and men) who pose nude for these pictures, as well as women who dress provocatively to tempt men, will have much to answer for when they die.  The men  who leer at these women lustfully will also.  Click here to see where unrepentant pornography  addicts wind up (what hell is like).

There is a big lie going around concerning pornography that it is somehow a healthy outlet for people to release their sexual urges.   Pornography is pretty poison for soul. Giving in to pornography in order to overcome sexual urges in other forms is as dumb as saying that one must eat poison in order to overcome poison.  No one would eat a delicious candy bar if it had nuclear waste inside of it.  Pornography is just like that - eye candy that is pleasurable to look at, but chock full of deadly soul radiation inside.  Every time you look at pornography is like holding a rattlesnake in your hand and having it bite you.  Remember, the devil wants you living in a fantasy world of nude women that doesn't exist in real life.  That way, you will be unable to cope with reality.  And after a while, you no longer own the pornography you are looking at - It owns you!

 

Sirach 7:8: Do not commit a sin twice;  even for one you will not go unpunished.

Leviticus 18:17: You shall not uncover the nakedness of a woman and of her daughter, and you shall not take her son's daughter or her daughter's daughter to uncover her nakedness; they are your near kinswomen; it is wickedness.

Genesis 38: 9-10: But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother's wife he spilled the semen on the ground, lest he should give offspring to his brother.  And what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD, and he slew him also.  

Proverbs 14:12: There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.

Isaiah 45:19: I did not speak in secret, in a land of darkness; I did not say to the offspring of Jacob, `Seek me in chaos.'  I the LORD speak the truth, I declare what is right.

Matthew 5:28: But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart

Luke 12:34: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Ephesians 5-6: Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure man, or one who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.  Let no one deceive you with empty words, for it is because of these things that the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.

Galatians 5:19-21: Now the works of the flesh are plain: fornication, impurity, licentiousnessidolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, anger, selfishness, dissension, party spirit,  envy, drunkenness, carousing, and the like. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20: Shun immorality. Every other sin which a man commits is outside the body; but the immoral man sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 12:22-24: On the contrary, the parts of the body which seem to be weaker are indispensable,  and those parts of the body which we think less honorable we invest with the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty,  which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving the greater honor to the inferior part,

 

Of course, the first step in overcoming porn addiction is to recognize that it is sinful and straight from satan.  You must realize that you will not be going to heaven when you die if you don't quit this sin and repent of it. If you don't do that first, then you have little chance of overcoming this demonic activity.  Once you do that, the next step is to get rid of every piece of porn that you own, and to immediately remove yourself from any and all temptations from it. This may mean getting an internet service that automatically blocks sinful websites.  After that, it is a given that you must go to confession, and sincerely confess this mortal sin from your heart.  Along with this confession, you must also have a firm purpose of amendment that you will never look at porn again. It is recommended that you replace the pleasure your brain feels when tempted with pornography with pain. How?  Easy. Take a big fat rubber band, put it on your wrist, and every time you get an impure urge, snap it hard on your wrist.  This may seem drastic, but St. Francis used to throw himself into a thorn bush when he got tempted! By doing this, eventually your brain will be reprogrammed to not associate porn with pleasure, and it will make it so much easier to stop feeding your soul with poison. 

After that, one of the most powerful ways to overcome porn is through the Holy Rosary. Telling Mary, who is the total opposite (humble, loving, obedient to her Son) of the devil , that you love her (just like Jesus did while he was on earth) while meditating on the life of Mary and Jesus in the Gospels, is a shortcut to holiness that will remove this addiction over timeAddiction is as much a spiritual disease as it is a physical one, and the Holy Rosary is the spiritual medicine that will stop this hellbound addiction dead in its tracks.  And don't forget that you can also say the Divine Mercy chaplet on your rosary.  Jesus loves it when you ask Him for Divine Mercy.  The bigger sinner you are, the more right you have to His infinite Divine Mercy. Just ask!

 

"No one can live continually in sin and continue to say the Rosary. Either he will give up the sin or he will give up the Rosary"     
Bishop Patrick Boyle

"If you say the Rosary faithfully until death, I assure you that in spite of the gravity of your sins, you shall receive a never-fading crown of glory. Even if you are on the brink of damnation, even if you have one foot in Hell, even if you have sold your soul to the devil as sorcerers do who practice black magic, and even if you are a heretic as obstinate as a devil, sooner or later you will be converted and will amend your life and save your soul, if  and mark well what I say -- if you say the Holy Rosary devoutly every day until death for the purpose of knowing the truth and obtaining contrition and pardon of your sins."          

St. Louis de Montfort 
The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.
The Blessed Virgin Mary to Blessed Alan de la Roche
"The greatest method of praying is to pray the Rosary."
St. Francis de Sales    
 
 

Going to daily Mass as much as possible is also recommended. Since it is forbidden to take Holy Communion while you are in the state of mortal sin, (1 Corinthians 11:27)  the daily struggle to not look at porn will be overcome by the necessity to stay in the state of grace to receive the Eucharist.  And remember, when you receive Holy Communion, you are just like the Blessed Virgin Mary, because you also have Christ inside of you, just like she did for 9 months after the Incarnation. Immediately after Communion, you and Jesus are one flesh, and that is the best and holiest time for you to tell Him you are sorry for your sins, and to ask him for help in overcoming this mortal sin.

Spending quiet time in front of the Blessed Sacrament in Adoration is also a great way to overcome porn.  Sitting still and staring at the Host in the monstrance is the devil's worst nightmare.  Why?  Because Christ in the Eucharist will silently talk to your mind and let you know what He expects of you with your life. So not only will you overcome porn, but your entire life will  be changed for the better.  There is no way to explain any of this logically, it just happens.

 

"Do you realize that Jesus is there in the tabernacle expressly for you  & for you alone? He burns with the desire to come into your heart...don't listen to the demon, laugh at him, and go without fear to receive the Jesus of peace and love."

St. Therese of Lisieux

And don't forget to read Scripture daily.  Meditating on the Word of God, not just reading it, is a sure way to overcome all sin.  The bible says that no one can serve 2 masters (Luke 16:13). By doing everything possible to serve God, the devil's hold on you will surely slip away.  The great thing about reading scripture is that you will run across certain passages that will speak personally to you. This is what is known as a "rhema" (RAY-muh).  A rhema is a specific Word of God that speaks personally to you, at this particular time in your life.  For instance, a porn addict may run across Matthew 5:28 and realize that he or she is committing adultery, which is strictly forbidden by the Sixth Commandment.  A porn addict may read about the Jews worshipping the golden calf while Moses was receiving the 10 Commandments, and then suddenly realize that he is worshipping the false idol of an image of a naked female, which is against the First Commandment.

Prayer and fasting are also recommended.  Praying from the heart, like the tax collector did in the temple (Luke 18:13 - "Be merciful to me, a sinner"), with all humility, is the way to do it. Fasting is hard to start, but easy once you get going. Start maybe with skipping one meal a day. This will quiet that little voice in your head that says "You must eat now, or you will never eat again!" After a week or two of skipping one meal a day, try two meals a day.  Everyone will be telling you that it's not healthy to skip meals, but Jesus fasted for 40 days in the desert as an example for us, so that is a big lie. It is more unhealthy by far to be a glutton at every meal. And you only need to do this once or twice a week, maybe on Wednesday's and Friday's. Occasionally starving the body of food has a direct impact on sexual urges. The stomach is right on top of the sexual organs.  Why this works is anyone's guess, but it does work.  St. Thomas Aquinas, one of the greatest minds ever in the Catholic Church, says in his Summa Theologica, that fasting is the guardian of chastity. 

 

"Fasting cleanses the soul, raises the mind, subjects one's flesh to the spirit, renders the heart contrite and humble, scatters the clouds of concupiscence, quenches the fire of lust, kindles the true light of chastity."

 St. Augustine, sinner turned saint

 

As stated above (Article 6), fasting was instituted by the Church in order to bridle the concupiscences of the flesh, which regard pleasures of touch in connection with food and sex. Wherefore the Church forbade those who fast to partake of those foods which both afford most pleasure to the palate, and besides are a very great incentive to lust. Such are the flesh of animals that take their rest on the earth, and of those that breathe the air and their products, such as milk from those that walk on the earth, and eggs from birds. For, since such like animals are more like man in body, they afford greater pleasure as food, and greater nourishment to the human body, so that from their consumption there results a greater surplus available for seminal matter, which when abundant becomes a great incentive to lust. Hence the Church has bidden those who fast to abstain especially from these foods.

St. Thomas Aquinas on Fasting

 

So stop being the devil's play toy and get into the spiritual battle to defeat him. While you are trapped in pornography, you are like a prisoner of war.  ALL prisoners of war have as their first duty to escape and get back home. Remember the devil's compensation - he will show you a pleasurable time now, but sooner or later, he will come after your mind, your body, and  your soul. Your life, as well as your death, will becoming a living hell.  And you will have no excuses when you die either, because God is sending you unlimited amounts of grace every day through Confession, the Eucharist, and the Rosary for you to overcome ALL sin - And all you have to do is take advantage of them - NOW.  The time for God's mercy is today, while you are still alive.  When you die,  the mercy ceases and the time for God's justice begins.  The scary part is that some people reading these words could be dead tomorrow.

It is a given that if you do all of the things recommended above - saying your daily rosary, going to Confession FREQUENTLY, asking Jesus for Divine Mercy, going to daily Mass, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, prayer to overcome this scourge, and fasting occasionally - you will overcome this mortal sin in time.  The devil would have you believe that you cannot overcome his addiction, that you are somehow powerless, that maybe you were just born this way, and that it's somehow all harmless fun.  Baloney.  You are a warrior in the war to end all wars, the war for your very soul. Stand up like a man and tell satan, in the name of Jesus Christ, to get out of your life and to go to the foot of the cross to await instructions from his Master, Jesus Christ.   Now is the time, this is the place, to escape from the clutches of hell and come back home to Jesus, his saints, and his angels.

JUST DO IT!

 

Your life consists in drawing nearer to God. To do this you must endeavor to detach yourself from visible things and remember that in a short time they will be taken from you.

Blessed John of Avila

Do not think that your present state is a punishment from Heaven, because you would be wrong, but be certain that your present state is willed by God for the salvation of your soul."

St.Padre Pio

"The spiritual combat in which we kill our passions to put on the new man is the most difficult struggle of all. We must never weary of this combat, but fight the holy fight fervently and perseveringly."     

St. Nilus

They deceive themselves who believe that union with God consists in ecstasies or raptures, and in the enjoyment of Him. For it consists in nothing except the surrender and subjection of our will - with our thoughts, words and actions - to the will of God....

St. Teresa of Avila

 

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